Ask Coach Michelle - Manifesting marriage material
I just turned 30 this year, and I always thought I would’ve been married by now. Instead I have found myself in several very long term, deep relationships. The last one I actually thought we would marry. Instead I broke it off with him after figuring out that he actually brought too much negative energy to my life. Once again I am disappointed and frustrated with being lonely and not finding the right companion! I am starting to think life might be better for me without the expectation of a partner. Instead, just enjoying my life the way it is. The rest of my life feels like its falling together nicely in terms of work, play and rest. Any thoughts?
- Suzanne
Suzanne, the universe is a wonderful mirror that offers us insight into what we believe. What this means is that every physical manifestation starts out as a belief whether it is one that serves us well in what we want to accomplish or one that does not serve us so well. If it’s one that is not serving us very well, the universe will continue to spit out physical manifestations that match that belief until we become aware of the belief and consciously change it. If you keep experiencing relationships that have the same pattern of being long term but ultimately not the right fit, then a powerful question to ask yourself is “What do all these relationships have in common?” And then, “What is the belief (usually fear based) that doesn’t serve me that underlies that common theme?” A few possibilities are: “I am afraid of being alone”, or similarly, “My life is not complete without a partner”, or “I don’t deserve a partner that is a perfect fit”, or “A partner that is a true fit for me just doesn’t exist”. All of these can cause you to stay in a long term relationship that isn’t going anywhere because fear is playing a part in attracting in the relationship and/or fear is playing a part in your decision to stay in the relationship. So do any of the above fear based beliefs, or some version of them, ring true for you?
After you become clear about the old, limiting belief you have been holding on to, then you can start consciously replacing it with another empowering belief like “I deserve a long term partner that is truly the right fit, I know he/she is out there, and I am at peace with whenever he or she decides to show up.” And an important belief to compliment that is, “I am whole, perfect, and complete with or without a relationship”. That is why I really like the new intention you have put out about just enjoying life the way it is without a partner and focusing on the areas that are going well. Letting go of that expectation can be very powerful in releasing resistance and enjoying your life just the way it is. In addition, seeing yourself as complete just the way you are, will raise your vibration to the level of the kind of partner you truly want to attract in. Then, when your partner shows up, and he will… he will be a vibrational match to what you truly want, which is someone who knows you are his perfect fit, knows he deserves you, knows he doesn’t NEED to be with you, but WANTS to be with you, and sees the power of your partnership. And with that partner it will be clear to both of you that marriage is in the cards.
michelle on November 22nd, 2008 | File Under Misc | No Comments -
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